Whether we want to admit it or not, we are living in a world and society where family ties aren’t always at it’s best. The relationships between parents and children are often strained, and the blame cannot be really put on any particular party. But this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t at least try to strength your family bonds…
- Spend time together – in this time and date, it’s pretty normal if every member of your family has their own private life, and if it’s a hectic one. With how busy we tend to be, it’s normal for our children to feel distanced from us. To avoid this happening in the future, it’s important that you make strong family bonds with your kids while they are still small. Spend time with them in an indoor play cafe or your local play ground. Bond over board games. Do fun activities that will interest both adults and kids alike.
- Eat at least one meal together – food has a natural way of helping people bond; and is probably the reason why going out to eat is such a popular first date option. While making food together as a family will certainly entertain you and help you bond, sitting down to eat a meal together can help more. Use that time for catching up with each other’s life; or simply enjoy the presence of each other.
- Have an annual family tradition that is unique to your family – do something once or twice a year that is exclusively for your family. For example, you can opt to get a family photo done professionally. If you get tired of your pictures turning out like passport photos Adelaide City or if you feel it’s something too expensive to get done every year, opt to buy/hire a DSLR camera and DIY it. Basically, you have to have something to look forwards to doing as a family…and have something to talk about the rest of the year.
- Keep your communication lines open – having an open communication line with your kids is essentially the best way to ensure that your family ties don’t unravel. Unfortunately, simply telling them to trust you won’t really work. You have to give them the confidence that you won’t “overreact” or judge them for coming to you. It’s also a good idea to share your own worries (what you feel is safe to share with them for their age); as this gives them the idea that you trust them as well.
- Don’t make distance an unbreakable wall – no matter how close you are as a family, once your kids move out for their job or their education, there inevitably will be a little strain in your relationship. Make sure that they come home at least once in a while to maintain that family connection. Modern communication makes life much simpler for us; so make use of it and call and video chat as often as possible. Even having a family chat will help.